Common Relationship Problems

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. All relationships have good and bad times, ups and downs. The solution is not to look for a perfect relationship, but to learn how to deal with problems when they arise. Most relationship conflicts are caused by lack of communication.

Lack Of Communication

Breakdown in communication is a very serious problem. It is the number one cause of relationship breakups. It's usually an underlying cause, so it's not as apparent as you might think. It leads to other problems.

Learning how to communicate in an effective manner - emphasis on effective - is the best thing you can do to save a crumbling relationship. Effective communication is a skill that you must learn. Yelling, arguing, and complaining is not an effective communication. In order to be effective you must learn how to express your thoughts, feelings, and worries in a clear and calm way.

You must also learn how to listen. Listening is not just thinking what you're going to say when the other person stops talking. You have to be open and flexible, you have to try to understand them and their point of view. Remember, communication is a two way street. It's not a competition, it's not about who is right and who will win the argument, it's about finding a solution that is satisfactory to both. Compromise is not a bad word.

Lack Of Trust

Relationships without trust are not a long-lasting relationships. Trust is the glue that holds couples together. It's hard to build and easy to destroy. It needs to be earned and not taken for granted.

If trust is lost for some reason or another, it doesn't mean that the relationship can't be salvaged. If both parties are willing to work on it, it can be rebuilt.

Unrealistic Expectations

Many people have really unrealistic expectations of relationships and they want to enforce their ideas of how things should be. Unfulfilled expectations are always problematic. You should learn to accept that no relationship is perfect. Why? Because neither you or your partner is perfect. Be realistic. It's good for you and your relationship.


For more insight on how to solve relationship problems, especially if things got out of hand, see – The Magic Of Making Up.